Black Orchid

Everyone on earth is a walking with some sort of trauma in their lives. It’s either they realise or not.

Well, as Buddha puts it – life is sufferings. And in the Islamic perspective, you’re put on earth to be tested and be the caliphate for the end goal which is Heaven in the hereafter.

So, life will throw at you things and your choice of how you respond to it will either make or break you. Some become bitter, some become content and happy. It really depends on how people decide to resolve their problems.

If we break down a problem or pain – there is actually 2 parts to it. The physical/mechanical aspect to the problem. And the emotional disruption that the problem brings to you. Fixing the the physical aspect of the problem is the easy part. Fixing the emotional aspect of the problem is the harder one to deal with. But the latter, lingers for a while if it’s not addressed and will give a more permanent mark in someone. Personality wise or attitude wise.

But then, from young – we are not taught on how to deal with emotional problems. We are always taught to just “man up” and brush it off. Or just deal with it yourself. So asking for help to fix emotional pain is not something that’s natural for people. Actually, it’s shameful to do that. Especially in the Asian community, it’s even worse.

Now that I’m more aware of it, I’m slowly learning how to fix my own emotional issues. But man it ain’t easy. It’s a muscle that haven’t been used. So learning the skill is like rocket science. You’d be a mess and explode every now and then. But well, at least there is a start somewhere.